Someone sent SN this. Apparently from someone called Gitama. We thought it had a ring of truth to it.
A few weeks ago, on my way back to France, sitting in Moscow’s airport, I let my eyes glance on a screen where a gorgeous man was exposing his attractive body and smile in a little movie that seemed to be an ad. for I don’t know what. Mostly, I never give too much attention to all these TV screens in public places encouraging us to consume more and more stupid, unnecessary things, but what to do, this time I got caught by a beautiful man, and after all there is nothing wrong enjoying a beautiful man. So for a shot moment, I indulged looking at him but about 30 second later he vanished in a soap bubble to be replace by this sentence: The ideal man is a myth!
It totally shocked me! What came after was actually an add for a perfume, but I didn’t even notice it. I just stayed stuck on this sentence: The ideal man is a myth!
The add was like a master hitting on my head. I saw how much I still have a picture of the perfect man and perfect woman and how it hinders me to go deeper in love.
Because of the fantasy of what an ideal man or woman is, we limit our capacity to love. Nobody can match our secret picture of the man, of the woman we think fits with us!
How can we love deeply if the man, the woman we are with does not fit in our ideal?
Few possibilities amount to many: the first one which is the most common one, we are going to try to change the man or the woman we are with to make him, her fit into our picture. By the way, it never works, in case you didn’t notice it yet!
Second, we are going to cultivate a dream of the prince and princess charming while being with the man, the woman we are so-called in love with. This dream state doesn’t allow us to meet, to merge fully with the man, the woman we are engage with. It always creates a kind of screen in between, building up frustration and thus supporting us to dream even more! By the way, the prince and the princess charming do not exist! Sorry for waking you up from your sweet dream!!
Third, we are going to try many men and women, like trying new fruits. At first the fruit seems very juicy, in one word perfect, but pretty soon there is a bitter taste. Than we throw the fruit. If we are nice, we find more clever ways of getting rid of the rotten fruit! By the way, how can you know if a fruit is good if you didn’t have time to digest it? It is not by having only a taste of it that we can judge on its benefits. It takes time before the fruit goes deep into us, into our blood, into our bones, into our soul!
Of course there are more possibilities. We are creative people, aren’t we? We can find so many strategies to avoid going deeper into love…
Another thing in creating this picture, we put ourselves at the same height of this picture and this too is impossible because we are not the perfect ideal man and woman ourselves. Knowing we are not perfect, it is of high pretension to dream of a perfect man and woman who will match our imperfection! It is really a joke!! Nobody is perfect or ideal simply because we are all unique! Uniqueness is the key in this whole story! Uniqueness is perfect and is sacred too! Think about it next time you meet a man, a woman who does not match your ideal. This man, this woman is unique! There is not a single person like her, like him! This man, this woman is a piece of art from existence. It should wake up in us deep awe, a sense of mystery, humbleness, respect, and worship…
And one more point on this topic: while projecting our picture of ideal man and woman, we can’t look deeply into the inner man, woman within us. The picture becomes a hindrance for meeting, for melting our counterpart. The process of Tantra is to burn all our pictures of what a man, a woman should be in order to meet the essence within us. Our essence of love, of light, of consciousness, which goes beyond our preferences, our fantasies, our identities…